Stupid Patriarchal Definition of Beauty

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After a long day,  I get home, log on to Facebook and the first thing I read is “27 Attractive Girls Who Became Ugly Freaks Because of Feminism” and already I’m rolling my eyes so far back that I’m pretty sure I saw the Pankhurst sisters deeply exhaling towards the ignorance.

Apparently, according to blog writer Roosh Valizadeh, feminism has supposedly ruined the structures of beauty and for some reason thinks that he holds the almighty power to define what beauty is. Now, I’m not sure if this is one of those I-write-stupid-blogs-to-seem-controversial-and-interesting or it’s genuinely a man with THE most acute way of thinking, either way this man has some serious mama issues.

So as an male feminist, I would do my role to part take in this conversation by redoing his blog in a direction that’s, shall we say, morally correct. I won’t touch on all 27 women, but I’m gonna give a general reply so he and all the other men with easily,tarnished pride can see that no one, and I mean no one, cares about how you want your women. You get what you get and if you have an issue, enjoy the right hand buddy.

New Title: Women Who Stuck it to Patriarchy With Their BS Ideologies of Beauty.

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This here is Leigh Alexander. She was one of the women who received harassment during the Gamergate Controversy. Apparently women in the gaming industry didn’t deserve similar respect as the men and in her criticism she saw the controversy as “the terroristic dominance of traditional appetites in what should be a diverse and creative field“. Her roundabout argument was to open gaming up to better represent women and minorities within the gaming industry. Are we really gonna judge her looks when she just dropped the mic like a BAWSS?

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For some reason Mr. Roosh has an issue with women with shaved heads. Let’s just say for the record, no one cares about how you grow your beard, or how long your hair is, then why do you think we would care about your opinions on how these women have theirs? Does it make you uncomfortable because you’re confused about your sexuality when you look at them? Did the whole, boys-have-short- hair and girls-have-long-hair just stumped the sexuality out of you? hm? Here’s a little tip, THEIR HAIR! THEIR BUSINESS!!!

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He then went on to attack this woman here because:

a) armpit hairs

b) tattoos

Then somehow linked it to Sigmund Freud’s Penis Envy theory. Well, someone must have been put on the bottle sooner than he thought. The notion of feminism is for women to be in control of their body, to let themselves be in touch with the naturalness of femininity. I’m sure there was a time where women just grew their business without any criticism. Then as time went on, for some reason men then started imposing this idea that body hair on women are just nasty and for generations we have let our women believe this. Well, it may be something different to what we’re use to, but this is a woman’s natural state, she also bleeds once a month, but hey! Who cares right? Just let her body do it’s thaing; and as for the tattoo, I will say the forehead thing is a bit much, but it’s her decision at the end of the day, so follow my lead Mr.Roosh and just shushh.

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Now on to the slut shaming. Don’t be misled by the title, it was obviously chosen to be ironic. The poem itself explores the title set upon women who are sexually active. God forbid a woman sleeps with more than one man by choice but lets all fist bump and high 5 the guy who intimidated a girl into sex. No biggy! Here is where I sprinkle some Lil Kim lyrics to get your mind thinking:

Here’s something I just can’t understand/ If a guy have three girls than he’s the man/ He can even give her some head, then sex her raw/ If a girl do the same than she’s a whore.- Christian Aguilera ft Lil Kim: Can’t Hold Us Down

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Now what comes after slut shaming? Oh of course, Body Shaming. *slow claps for the cliché*. Honestly, are we still at that point where we pretend no one has cellulite anymore? To all the women who wanna be thick-thighed, you beautiful girl, same with you girls who have good metabolism. Calvin Harris has made a song confessing his love for all The Girls and their differences; and if it’s coming from someone like him, do we really care for the irrelevant opinion of Mr. Roosh?

I’ll leave my list there. My point is, no man can tell a woman, or anyone for that matter, how they should present themselves. If you a woman who wanna represent the shaved head look, then go for it. If you a man who wanna slay in them heels, DO IT MAMA! No one here should be telling the other how they should be dressing (unless it’s your mother on a Sunday morning), so Mr. Roosh, thanks for the “Ugly Freaks” label, but conventional beauty was so pre-Madonna.

Dear Selective Feminist…

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The other day on my commute back from work, I overheard two ladies in their mid-twenties talking about the progression of women in this day and age. So the conversation kind of went like this:

Woman 1 : Even though a lot has happened for women, I still don’t understand why we’re still considered inferior to men

Woman 2: Exactly! We’re just as strong as them. Just as smart, or even smarter

*Small Laughter*

They then continue to profess that “I am like, a big feminist”

Like.. ok then!

After a short while of talking and standing, woman 2 then starts to grow tired.

Woman 2: I can’t believe that all these men are sitting whilst women like me have to stand. It’s disgusting. What happened to being gentlemen? I missed how men treated women back in the days. They were more courteous. They were more classier too. I mean, I’m in heels, standing! And these men are just sitting down! How DISGUSTING!!!!

Throughout their rant, I did agree with their notions of gender equality. I myself consider myself a feminist. But I draw the line where people who call themselves feminist go back on themselves and pick and choose on which part of gender equality is more convenient to them. Dear female on my train, if you were well and able enough to go out in heels, get intoxicated and do all that you did, don’t ever come back and complain about “unfair” that no men offered you their seat. Since you’ve proudly announce your alliance to feminism, don’t fall back on it by complaining that your feet hurts because your heels were too high.

You as a woman have decided to wear what you wore out of choice. You have decided to go out on a night out and get drunk out of choice. You have explored all your choices as a woman in one night well enough to be able to withstand the pain of standing for a couple of stops.

No man offered you their seats, so what? You were strong enough to dance in them heels all night, suck it up!! Don’t pick and choose on when you want to be a feminist, because some women don’t have that ability. Some women are trapped at home out of fear. Some women don’t go out wearing what they want out of cultural obligations. Some women don’t get to have fun with their own girls because the situation they are in does not allow them to. So since you have this freedom as a woman, SUCK IT UP!!! Don’t wait for any man to offer you their seat. You are strong! Stand the WHOLE JOURNEY if needed!

Yes both gender are suppose to be helping each other out, but don’t be the type to wait for someone to offer you that help. HELP YOURSELF!!!  If you want to play the strong independent woman role, then play it till the scene ends. Don’t create  yourself an interval where you play weak in order for things to go your way. Don’t pick and choose honey! You wanna be a feminist, THEN FEMINIST THE HECK OUT OF LIFE!

Gender equality is yet to be reached, we all know this. So let’s not make it worse by going back on ourselves.