Munroe Bergdorf vs Piers Morgan

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Ever since Munroe Bergdorf got pulled out of her L’Oreal contract due to an out-of-context status about the structure of racism, she has received a lot of heat for it. I mean, she states that racism exists and people attack her by telling her to go back to the jungle. It’s like calling someone a murderer and that person comes and provides the evidence to their own crime.

So because of it becoming viral, Bergdorf was given an opportunity to explain her out-of-context Facebook post on Good Morning Britain. Hosted by Susanna Reid and Charlotte Hawkins, it seems that Piers Morgan however, thinks that it is HIS show by “challenging” Bergdorf and speaking over everyone on the panel. It was so infuriating to watch but let me help reiterate Bergdorf’s points.

Her status ran like so:

                  “I don’t have the energy to talk about the racial violence of white people. Most of you refuse to acknowledge your existence, privilege and success as a racist build on the backs, blood and death of people of colour

The first question they then asked was “Do you think ALL white people are racist?”. If you have no idea of the history of, well majority of countries, it would make sense to ask this question as a reply. You automatically criminalise her by making it a personal attack to your whiteness rather than seeing its truth. You cannot say that the foundation of places like Britain and the US was not built on the “backs, blood and death of people of colour”. Go through any history books and it’ll tell you otherwise right there and then.

To ask if racism was created by white people? well that’s also an uncomfortable truth also because no other race dominated the world by enforcing standard of living and human value. Read up on colonialism and imperialism if you’re still confused. Bergdorf tried to clear it up by saying how she’s mainly talking about how people are socialised when it comes to race, as well as how the structure of racism exists where white people lead and the rest follow below; and that’s when Piers Morgan decides to open his ignorant mouth. An attempt at intellectual, verbal heroism without any actual intellect is how I saw it.

Bergdorf understands that not “all” white people are racist, but just because you don’t say racist things doesn’t mean you’re actually an ally. She urges the activism in dismantling racism, so for white people who have all these privileges, they must use that super power well by speaking out and actively take a role in calling it out. If you don’t, then you’re still part of the problem.

I’m a white, straight, male guy, so basically I’m enemy number one“- PM

I’m not even going to further comment on “male guy” but already you can tell that his argument is not based on any evidence but a little tear to his white, straight, male pride.

It’s not about you though“- Bergdorf and everyone else who truly understands the injustice within society.

 

For a platform to allow someone to voice their point, I’m confused on why Piers Morgan then starts to silence her by continuously talking over her. He says he’s not sexist but if this was a literature class, this would be a perfect moment to point this out as a metaphor FOR SEXISM!!!!!

You are calling all straight, white guys like me a serious offensive, stereotypical labels I find very offensive” – Yes, PM, Again.

I’m just amazed that he was so offended. Who would’ve thought that being called a racist was more offensive than actually experiencing racism. I felt really bad that Bergdorf called him that. Bergdorf may have experienced racist, sexist and transphobic comments, but what are they next to the fragility of straight, white pride?

He then moves on to saying that her comments will cause a divide as if there isn’t one in the first place. Does he think that we as a society all live in unison? I mean, I would so agree but till my ethnicity is not vital information during a job application, then please leave that at the door. Piers Morgan tries to play this brutal honesty who speaks the mind of the public, but in this case he only speaks the mind of those who share similar qualities to alley-ways. You are part of the problem Mr. Morgan, there’s no doubt about it. Till you understand you racial position within society and start using its benefits to help those who don’t share that benefit, rather than silence them, I’m sorry, but again, you are part of the problem.

His denial and constant interruption has now become a clear metaphor for oppression. Oppression within sexism, racism and any other isms and schisms that exist. He even tries to undermine Bergdorf’s knowledge by challenging her to define what “patriarchy” is and pretending that it doesn’t exist. Like, how can he not see that by undermining her knowledge he proves that IT DOES EXIST. “the top 5 most successful people in Britain are women”, ye just because people are no longer slaves doesn’t mean that racism is over.

I could go on to describe how this whole interview frustrates me and how mentality shared with the likes Piers Morgan will never allow us as a society of move forward. He refuses to admit that racism is a structure that white people benefit from. He believes that just because racist comments aren’t said out loud it must mean that it doesn’t exist. I don’t know what world he lives but it must be a nice place to live in.

Here are the things you need to take from Bergdorf. RACISM and for all the white people out there, know that your skin colour puts you above majority of people who don’t have the same skin colour as you. It is a superpower in a way, so please use it well. Know your privilege can create an impact within society. So instead of being offended by the truth, try using it so we all end up having the same sort of privilege. We know that not ALL white people are racist, but if you’re not helping dismantle it, I’m sorry, but you are the man who stands and watches a murder and does nothing about it. Don’t be that person, it’s so not cool. Don’t try to justify it by coming up with ridiculous comparisons like Mr. Morgan did because deep down, we know it’s true. Everyone likes to be the hero not the criminal, so don’t deny your position, embrace it and use it to help others along the way.

 

Watch the video here if you want Piers Morgan to annoy you.

 

 

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What I learned about women during my travels

 

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It’s not often that I go travelling. Actually scratch that, I’ve never been travelling ever! not even a holiday with the ‘lads’. But thankfully, I have managed to push myself to save and got myself a month ticket to travel three countries [Malaysia, Thailand, Hong Kong], which isn’t much I know, but for me, that’s a blessing!

During my travels, I noticed things about these countries. Although completely different, they did share certain qualities.

As a black man, I’ve only slowly started to learn to love the skin I am in. It’s hard when I was raised around a majority of white people. It wasn’t till I moved to East London that I learnt to embrace my skin.

In these Asian countries on the other-hand, it reminded me of the shame of a dark skin. There were multiple advertisements on skin bleaching. Everywhere you look there was bound to be a billboard that associated ‘white’ with ‘beauty’. It didn’t shake me of my self-love, it just made me sad how some people are made to hate their own skin. You even see some girls using foundation ridiculous shades lighter than their natural skin. This then reiterated the power of consumption and their constant feed on insecurities.

There was also a warped idea on the “ideal woman”. The usual of course, skinny, light skin, not superior to their male counterparts in every way possible, it even went as far as to dictate the shape of your eyes. With these expectations of women, it proved how powerful the patriarchy is. Not to be superficial, but the men asserting these ideas weren’t even great lookers themselves so I couldn’t understand how women had to conform to standards of beauty, but men didn’t have to.. so much anyways.

The expectations were so strong that it even lead women to judge other women. There women who classed themselves to be modest judging women who dared to wear dresses that showed too much leg, shoulders and cleavage. I mean, you got the same thing she does.

It was bizarre though, whilst in Malaysia, I visited a temple dedicated to Aditi, the mother of all Gods. So I couldn’t understand how one of the most powerful Gods was a woman yet they viewed women as an inferior breed. I couldn’t understand how mothers and grandmothers should be respected with their maternal titles but as women, it meant nothing. Men had access to women in ways that even women themselves don’t.

With all this happening, I came to a conclusion about women, in specific women of colour. They are the strongest beings on the planet. They have managed to survive in a sphere where they aren’t considered equal. They have managed find opportunities for themselves where even without a voice they have existed under the radar. There were multiple times where I saw women doing male-dominated roles. I know it’s not as much of a big deal in the west, but here are women who were working in construction with no helmets. There were women cutting grass in fields 5 times the size of a rugby pitch with just a strimmer brush cutter. There were older women hoarding out heavy equipment to unblock sewers with just a t-shirt and sandals. I have never appreciated the work-ethics and perseverance of womanhood more till now.

The patriarchy exist, no matter what Piers Morgan says. But no matter how strong it impacts a society, it does not beat the strength of womanhood.

Things that are Suppose to be good in 2017

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There are certain things, that when I decided to breathe the air of 2017, that should be fine by now. I mean I know things take time but I kind of want to live in an era where improvement is visual, as in I CAN ACTUALLY SEE THE DIFFERENCE! but hey, it looks like some big important people just thought, ‘naaah, let’s mess it up for a bit longer‘. So here are 4 examples on things that shouldn’t be an issue by now but still is for some reason. ( I thought 5 examples would’ve been too mainstream 😉

  1. Housing.

I’m no where near financially capable of having my own home anytime soon, heck! I don’t even have a lot of money to rent a place. So momma (and any other family member willing to put up with me), sorry but you’re gonna have to put up with us much longer. It seems that with the housing crisis, there may be potential for us young people to be homeowners, but that is not going to be anytime soon. According to a survey in 2015, the number of young people (20-34) still living with has raised since 1996, from approximately 2.7 to 3.3 million, that is almost 60,000 people still living with their parents. Do you think these statistics might’ve improved in the last two year? (be honest about your answer)

[But more importantly, does this mean we can change the conditions in TLC’s ‘Scrub’ please?]

You can have a degree, you can have a well paid, full-time job and still you’d be living with your mama a bit longer to save up for basic house in the sub-burbs. I mean, the housing rates have slowed down a bit, London especially, according to the Nationwide housing price index but in comparison to other parts in the UK, the average price of a house in London is £478,142, whereas in the North it’s only around £125,237. So unless your parents got some wongas in the bank ready to be passed down, or you just casually have £500,000 lying around, then the potential of you being a home owner is not that great.

2. Tuition

Like, this is the most frustrating topic amongst young people in the UK. When I applied for university in 2012, where tuition was still around £3,000 for most of my peers. However, due to some circumstances I was forced to take a gap year, what a BIG mistake that was. When I started late into 2013, my tuition was bang on, slap in the face, £9,000. Like, did I become richer in that year off or am I just suppose to poop out this money? Safe to say that there were some regrets in taking that gap year- oh also, this mass amount of debt is a big contribution to why buying a house is more a dream than a reality, so double thanks government.

Oh, if you think that’s where they’ll stop, think again because in September that price will go up to £9,250 and will continue to do so till 2020. I mean, it’s not like we have lives to live anyways, let’s just work and die with debts to pass on to our grand-kids. It’s the only thing that will forever connect us. Thanks Government, we’re ever so thankful. [refer to this GIF for honest reaction]

Apologies to young people who are to be starting university this September. Since we’re here, I would also like to apologise to those who come from poor backgrounds because there was once thing called ‘maintenance grant‘. This was a scheme that gave those from low economic backgrounds free money to help them in their education. But hey, I guess the government has faith that you can survive as well as your rich counterparts. So no free money for you, just more debt. It’s like being in a party you didn’t want to be in but without food, energy and mental strength.

3. Social Inequality

This I guess will always be a thing, which sucks but such is life. The most prominent example of this is obviously the Grenfell Tower Fire. We can use words such as austerity and gentrification to further the example, but the matter of fact is, it has literally caused death. People died because they were poor. People died because rich people could control structures of their surrounding. People died because people high up just didn’t care enough for the little people and this is the sad reality that we have to live with in 2017. We can’t just accept this. We as individuals have to try harder to make some sort of change, a difference. It’s naive for me to say ‘we should care more of each other’ but it’s all that we need for change.

Another within this topic is *drum roll* THE GENDER WAGE GAP! HOORAYY!!! So since the ever so awkward reveal of BBC’s pay, things took a turn when people realise that some people within the industry are getting paid less than others, and by ‘some people’ I mean women [SHOCK]! We have men like Chris Evans who gets paid around £2.2 million, whilst presenters like Claudia Winkleman gets only a maximum of £500,000. Does that sound unfair to you? Of course! Mainly because Chris Evans to me is an overrated radio presenter who still tries his best to stay relevant. Winklemen on the other hand has a far more interesting and exciting tone. She could at least maintain interest of Top Gear audiences better than Mr. Evans over here. So why is she getting paid less than half of what he gets? There are facts that says men automatically get paid more on start. There are also debates that try to justify these gaps by saying ‘women don’t speak up, so why should they get it’, I know, eye-rolls for days right? With article titles such as “Gender pay gap to remain until 2069…” there is a lot of fun ahead of us. I’m 24 now. At 78 I will still be angry and still wondering why this is still an issue. But hey, to all the females out there, at least you have Jane Austen on the upcoming £10 note right? WooHoo! Here’s to PROGRESSION!!!

4. lgb-T-qia Rights

Since we’re on the topic of progression. Lets all give a big round of applause to the thing Roal Dahl made James ride in with giant insects, the GIANT peach-head himself, DONALD TRUMP!!! Whooo. This man did his president thing and has officially banned anyone who is trans to join the military. I do not know where to even begin. He talks about them being burden to the military’s finances, then continue to post up articles about how being trans is a psychological issue, like, SOMEONE STOP HIM NOW!!!! To whatever fool voted for this man, congratulation! You really messed it up for everyone. I don’t mean everyone in the US, I mean EVERYONE! Because we’re now out here outraged that this is happening and as outsiders can’t do anything but show love and support.

To the transgender community in the US, we sincerely apologise that your choice to be brave and fight for your own country has been stricken because those who know less are now running your country. I mean, why pay $8.4 million to help those feel free in their own skin when you can spend $84 million helping men with hardening issues? The US is doing cuts to budget right? So it’s all for the sake of saving.

Ye, kudos to gays being allowed to get married and the whole love is love movement, but the fight is not over till everyone that exists within that abbreviation is allowed to be who they want to be. It’s lgbTqia, not just lgb. So let’s do it like the Avengers and ASSEMBLE!!!!!

These are all that I have time for today but I’m sure there are more to be angry about. 2017 has not ended yet guys, so woohoooo LETS GET READY FOR MORE BAD NEWS!!!! This is not to depress anyone. There are things out of our control that we will encounter. Whatever it is, let us all try our best to be decent human beings and help each other enjoy our existence a bit more.

 

 

Dear Rich People,

Extensive damage is seen to the Grenfell Tower block which was destroyed in a disastrous fire, in north Kensington, West London

A poem I wrote in reaction to the Grenfell Tower fire.

How nice it must be for you to sit high upon your thrones and watch the dusts on your feet whither away.

How nice it must be to dictate the aesthetics of a landscape simply out of pure distaste.

How nice it must be to colonise a town, raise its “standards” to meet YOUR standards but forget that it is the American Dream most can’t reach.

Oh it is not your fault that others are at a disadvantage,

It is not your fault that you were blessed with a platform three inches higher than the rest, no.

But look at what you have done!

Look at how the decision made by the majority of your population to relocate in order to save money has robbed those who don’t have any.

Look at how your pop-up cafes with distillery fonts on its glass panels wipe out the local business that sold hair products not seen on high-street shelves like dead bugs on your Audi Q7 car window.

Look at how you attempted to dress up the ugly beauty of our Grenfell pageant Queen with your cheap Cladding fashion.

On her own she thrived in culture and love. She thrived in a community high above.

But thanks to your wealthy, western standards of beauty,

You deemed her ugly and impoverish.

You looked high up at her and cut her down so far deep that she was the stamped out beauty under your giant feet.

You did that!

You did not apologise, you did not attempt to save her,

Instead you watched her burn from the inside of your white picket-fenced house on every screened gadget that existed within your space.

You murmered sympathy desensitised by your wealth:

“Oh no, how sad!”

“Poor them”

Yes indeed! POOR THEM!

Poor them with 7 family members in a 3-bedroom flat.

Poor them who were promised safety by new reconstruction but were murdered by that.

Poor them for being poor, to not be able to afford the new life you have reconstructed into a space they once called home but thank you for your sincerity that deep down you know is guilt.

Watch the fireworks and sweep up the ashes,

Now the only hard thing to do now is relocate or stay?

Stupid Patriarchal Definition of Beauty

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After a long day,  I get home, log on to Facebook and the first thing I read is “27 Attractive Girls Who Became Ugly Freaks Because of Feminism” and already I’m rolling my eyes so far back that I’m pretty sure I saw the Pankhurst sisters deeply exhaling towards the ignorance.

Apparently, according to blog writer Roosh Valizadeh, feminism has supposedly ruined the structures of beauty and for some reason thinks that he holds the almighty power to define what beauty is. Now, I’m not sure if this is one of those I-write-stupid-blogs-to-seem-controversial-and-interesting or it’s genuinely a man with THE most acute way of thinking, either way this man has some serious mama issues.

So as an male feminist, I would do my role to part take in this conversation by redoing his blog in a direction that’s, shall we say, morally correct. I won’t touch on all 27 women, but I’m gonna give a general reply so he and all the other men with easily,tarnished pride can see that no one, and I mean no one, cares about how you want your women. You get what you get and if you have an issue, enjoy the right hand buddy.

New Title: Women Who Stuck it to Patriarchy With Their BS Ideologies of Beauty.

1)

This here is Leigh Alexander. She was one of the women who received harassment during the Gamergate Controversy. Apparently women in the gaming industry didn’t deserve similar respect as the men and in her criticism she saw the controversy as “the terroristic dominance of traditional appetites in what should be a diverse and creative field“. Her roundabout argument was to open gaming up to better represent women and minorities within the gaming industry. Are we really gonna judge her looks when she just dropped the mic like a BAWSS?

2)

For some reason Mr. Roosh has an issue with women with shaved heads. Let’s just say for the record, no one cares about how you grow your beard, or how long your hair is, then why do you think we would care about your opinions on how these women have theirs? Does it make you uncomfortable because you’re confused about your sexuality when you look at them? Did the whole, boys-have-short- hair and girls-have-long-hair just stumped the sexuality out of you? hm? Here’s a little tip, THEIR HAIR! THEIR BUSINESS!!!

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He then went on to attack this woman here because:

a) armpit hairs

b) tattoos

Then somehow linked it to Sigmund Freud’s Penis Envy theory. Well, someone must have been put on the bottle sooner than he thought. The notion of feminism is for women to be in control of their body, to let themselves be in touch with the naturalness of femininity. I’m sure there was a time where women just grew their business without any criticism. Then as time went on, for some reason men then started imposing this idea that body hair on women are just nasty and for generations we have let our women believe this. Well, it may be something different to what we’re use to, but this is a woman’s natural state, she also bleeds once a month, but hey! Who cares right? Just let her body do it’s thaing; and as for the tattoo, I will say the forehead thing is a bit much, but it’s her decision at the end of the day, so follow my lead Mr.Roosh and just shushh.

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Now on to the slut shaming. Don’t be misled by the title, it was obviously chosen to be ironic. The poem itself explores the title set upon women who are sexually active. God forbid a woman sleeps with more than one man by choice but lets all fist bump and high 5 the guy who intimidated a girl into sex. No biggy! Here is where I sprinkle some Lil Kim lyrics to get your mind thinking:

Here’s something I just can’t understand/ If a guy have three girls than he’s the man/ He can even give her some head, then sex her raw/ If a girl do the same than she’s a whore.- Christian Aguilera ft Lil Kim: Can’t Hold Us Down

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Now what comes after slut shaming? Oh of course, Body Shaming. *slow claps for the cliché*. Honestly, are we still at that point where we pretend no one has cellulite anymore? To all the women who wanna be thick-thighed, you beautiful girl, same with you girls who have good metabolism. Calvin Harris has made a song confessing his love for all The Girls and their differences; and if it’s coming from someone like him, do we really care for the irrelevant opinion of Mr. Roosh?

I’ll leave my list there. My point is, no man can tell a woman, or anyone for that matter, how they should present themselves. If you a woman who wanna represent the shaved head look, then go for it. If you a man who wanna slay in them heels, DO IT MAMA! No one here should be telling the other how they should be dressing (unless it’s your mother on a Sunday morning), so Mr. Roosh, thanks for the “Ugly Freaks” label, but conventional beauty was so pre-Madonna.

Bring It On 2017

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As I sit dunking coconut cookies into a nice cold glass of milk at 2am, I start to think of what about this year could I do to better myself? I have plenty of fears about 2017 and just generally being a grown up, but I feel I’m somewhat ready for it? I mean, I’m not 100% sure, but I just have a gut feeling that something about this year will change my life, well I’m hoping that it does!

I know people make resolutions every year, some they keep, some they dabble into now-and-then when they remember, so I’m gonna participate in trying this year. But I’m gonna try be as realistic as possible because a diet or joining a gym is something I know I probably won’t commit to, still, there’s no harm in trying. So, 2017, here are my top 5 promises to you:

  1. Jump More

No, not in the literal sense, but more so in the sense of going for the things I want to do but fear to do. So ‘jump more’, take more risk. Even if I fail, it won’t hurt to say that at least I’ve tried.

2. Stay Connected

This is a promise to old and new friends. That this year, I will try my best to (re)unite with you at some point and do it more often. I noticed I am surrounded by a whole bunch of beautiful people, some I’m only connected to via social media or text. Therefore it is my promise to make a more physical appearance. But it takes two to tango so please, dance with me when you can.

3. Treat Yo’self

Now this is more for me. I need to start doing things more for myself because for some reason I let guilt hold me back from doing whatever I want. So, buy that jacket I feel I don’t deserve mainly because it’s too pricey. Take more dance classes.Enhance a dormant skill. Don’t be afraid to try something different. Enjoy all the little things the world has to offer. I feel people get too busy being concerned about achieving the whole get education-get a good job-be in a relationship goals that they forget to just take time to treat themselves. It’s not selfish to make yourself happy, so here’s to hoping that it opens me up to something new that I can enjoy this year.

4. Petition against Petty & Shine light on Shade.

2016 has got my emotion doing acrobatic skills that I find myself being fabulously bitter at the world. I wasn’t raised to be self-entitled nor feel like the world owes me something, which means no more being a brat and letting the things that hurt as quick as possible. There will be no more space for pettiness and shade, just forgiveness and patience. To those who know me know that this will be hard for me, but 2017 got me feeling positive.

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This is left blank for now. This is for all the upcoming resolutions that will pop up during the year. For all the actions that I will take to better myself. For all the efforts I will put in for others; and for the things in the strange and beyond that is coming to change me. I am ready for it all. So 2017, BRING IT ON!!!!

I hope this year will bring something new and life changing for you all, even if it’s scary, don’t worry, we’re all probably experiencing the same sort of feeling. But for now, lets all get ready to take the plunge together. To 2017!!!!! Whooo!!!!

You Let Your Mother Sleep in the Cold

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Hello people!! Hope Christmas has treated you well and hope you’ve have all enjoyed the company and warmth that came with Christmas. However, for some, they unfortunately didn’t have the same warmth extended to them, both literal and metaphorically.

As Christmas commenced, we sat around the table with smiles and empty stomachs all ready to dig in and share stories. Empty plates became full and empty stomach slowly start to get filled. But as we sat and talked, my mother told us a story about the homeless woman she met during her last minute Christmas eve shopping.

As she was walking, a lady stopped her to ask her for money. My mom than stops and asks her “Will you be spending this money on alcohol later?”, the lady replied “No”. Turns out she just came back from her daughter’s HOUSE to give the present she had for her granddaughter, a present she used all the money she just begged for to get. Stunned by her reply, my mom then asks “how come they didn’t invite you in to spend Christmas with them?”. Saddened, the lady said that her son-in-law was not comfortable to have her in the house because of her “state” (yes, please be angry at the son-in-law with me). So with that she was let back into the cold whilst her daughter and son-in-law enjoy the joys of Christmas with their daughter.

It was here we paused, dumbfounded on how someone would let their mother roam the cold streets during Christmas simply because of her “state”. She raised that woman, she carried her for nine months, she tried her best to provide for her, but now? Now she’s pushed back out like an unwanted pet? It was just so heartbreaking.

Sometimes I feel like this western world I live in is so advanced, but then sometimes I question if moral is something that still exists? In our culture, parents are praised and highly respected, no matter how in-the-wrong they may be. Sure you can judge how that relationship works, but I can assure you never in our life would we let our mother enter a home just to go back out to being homeless. Things are different here. Yes, things are more complex. But what tells you that it was OK to let your mother continue to be homeless on a day like Christmas? Was the idea of spending money on an extra person too much for you? Like, I just don’t understand it. Is this how the west treat those who raise them? As if they’re disposable trash? Just think about that for a second. There may be family complications in the past, things might’ve happened, but it was Christmas for Pete’s sake! Even now my heart goes out for the woman who had nothing to provide something for her granddaughter. Wherever she is, may she find peace in this world, with herself and her family; and may the family that pushed her out realise their mistake and take actions immediately, because this is not the kind of world I want to be living in, where we treat our family as unwanted baggage.

Guys, love one another. Don’t let pride come between you and those you once loved. Life is too short to be treating those close to you like this.

I hope you all have a brilliant year next year, filled with love, care and peace. Stay blessed my fellow humans.

Merry belated Christmas and a Happy New Year.