The other day on my commute back from work, I overheard two ladies in their mid-twenties talking about the progression of women in this day and age. So the conversation kind of went like this:
Woman 1 : Even though a lot has happened for women, I still don’t understand why we’re still considered inferior to men
Woman 2: Exactly! We’re just as strong as them. Just as smart, or even smarter
They then continue to profess that “I am like, a big feminist”
Like.. ok then!
After a short while of talking and standing, woman 2 then starts to grow tired.
Woman 2: I can’t believe that all these men are sitting whilst women like me have to stand. It’s disgusting. What happened to being gentlemen? I missed how men treated women back in the days. They were more courteous. They were more classier too. I mean, I’m in heels, standing! And these men are just sitting down! How DISGUSTING!!!!
Throughout their rant, I did agree with their notions of gender equality. I myself consider myself a feminist. But I draw the line where people who call themselves feminist go back on themselves and pick and choose on which part of gender equality is more convenient to them. Dear female on my train, if you were well and able enough to go out in heels, get intoxicated and do all that you did, don’t ever come back and complain about “unfair” that no men offered you their seat. Since you’ve proudly announce your alliance to feminism, don’t fall back on it by complaining that your feet hurts because your heels were too high.
You as a woman have decided to wear what you wore out of choice. You have decided to go out on a night out and get drunk out of choice. You have explored all your choices as a woman in one night well enough to be able to withstand the pain of standing for a couple of stops.
No man offered you their seats, so what? You were strong enough to dance in them heels all night, suck it up!! Don’t pick and choose on when you want to be a feminist, because some women don’t have that ability. Some women are trapped at home out of fear. Some women don’t go out wearing what they want out of cultural obligations. Some women don’t get to have fun with their own girls because the situation they are in does not allow them to. So since you have this freedom as a woman, SUCK IT UP!!! Don’t wait for any man to offer you their seat. You are strong! Stand the WHOLE JOURNEY if needed!
Yes both gender are suppose to be helping each other out, but don’t be the type to wait for someone to offer you that help. HELP YOURSELF!!! If you want to play the strong independent woman role, then play it till the scene ends. Don’t create yourself an interval where you play weak in order for things to go your way. Don’t pick and choose honey! You wanna be a feminist, THEN FEMINIST THE HECK OUT OF LIFE!
Gender equality is yet to be reached, we all know this. So let’s not make it worse by going back on ourselves.