Things that are Suppose to be good in 2017

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There are certain things, that when I decided to breathe the air of 2017, that should be fine by now. I mean I know things take time but I kind of want to live in an era where improvement is visual, as in I CAN ACTUALLY SEE THE DIFFERENCE! but hey, it looks like some big important people just thought, ‘naaah, let’s mess it up for a bit longer‘. So here are 4 examples on things that shouldn’t be an issue by now but still is for some reason. ( I thought 5 examples would’ve been too mainstream ūüėČ

  1. Housing.

I’m no where near financially capable of having my own home anytime soon, heck! I don’t even have a lot of money to rent a place. So momma (and any other family member willing to put up with me), sorry but you’re gonna have to put up with us much longer. It seems that with the housing crisis, there may be potential for us young people to be homeowners, but that is not going to be anytime soon. According to a survey in 2015, the number of young people (20-34) still living with has raised since 1996, from approximately 2.7 to 3.3 million, that is almost 60,000 people still living with their parents. Do you think these statistics might’ve improved in the last two year? (be honest about your answer)

[But more importantly, does this mean we can change the conditions in TLC’s ‘Scrub’ please?]

You can have a degree, you can have a well paid, full-time job and still you’d be living with your mama a bit longer to save up for basic house in the sub-burbs. I mean, the housing rates have slowed down a bit, London especially, according to the Nationwide housing price index but in comparison to other parts in the UK, the average price of a house in London is¬†¬£478,142, whereas in the North it’s only around¬†¬£125,237. So unless your parents got some wongas in the bank ready to be passed down, or you just casually have ¬£500,000 lying around, then the potential of you being a home owner is not that great.

2. Tuition

Like, this is the most frustrating topic amongst young people in the UK. When I applied for university in 2012, where tuition was still around £3,000 for most of my peers. However, due to some circumstances I was forced to take a gap year, what a BIG mistake that was. When I started late into 2013, my tuition was bang on, slap in the face, £9,000. Like, did I become richer in that year off or am I just suppose to poop out this money? Safe to say that there were some regrets in taking that gap year- oh also, this mass amount of debt is a big contribution to why buying a house is more a dream than a reality, so double thanks government.

Oh, if you think that’s where they’ll stop, think again because in September that price will go up to¬†¬£9,250 and will continue to do so till 2020. I mean, it’s not like we have lives to live anyways, let’s just work and die with debts to pass on to our grand-kids. It’s the only thing that will forever connect us. Thanks Government, we’re ever so thankful. [refer to this GIF for honest reaction]

Apologies to young people who are to be starting university this September. Since we’re here, I would also like to apologise to those who come from poor backgrounds because there was once thing called ‘maintenance grant‘. This was a scheme that gave those from low economic backgrounds free money to help them in their education. But hey, I guess the government has faith that you can survive as well as your rich counterparts. So no free money for you, just more debt. It’s like being in a party you didn’t want to be in but without food, energy and mental strength.

3. Social Inequality

This I guess will always be a thing, which sucks but such is life. The most prominent example of this is obviously the Grenfell Tower Fire. We can use words such as austerity and gentrification to further the example, but the matter of fact is, it has literally caused death. People died because they were poor. People died because rich people could control structures of their surrounding. People died because people high up just didn’t care enough for the little people and this is the sad reality that we have to live with in 2017. We can’t just accept this. We as individuals have to try harder to make some sort of change, a difference. It’s naive for me to say ‘we should care more of each other’ but it’s all that we need for change.

Another within this topic is *drum roll* THE GENDER WAGE GAP! HOORAYY!!! So since the ever so awkward reveal of BBC’s pay, things took a turn when people realise that some people within the industry are getting paid less than others, and by ‘some people’ I mean women [SHOCK]! We have men like Chris Evans who gets paid around¬†¬£2.2 million, whilst presenters like Claudia Winkleman gets only a maximum of¬†¬£500,000. Does that sound unfair to you? Of course! Mainly because Chris Evans to me is an overrated radio presenter who still tries his best to stay relevant. Winklemen on the other hand has a far more interesting and exciting tone. She could at least maintain interest of Top Gear audiences better than Mr. Evans over here. So why is she getting paid less than half of what he gets? There are facts that says men automatically get paid more on start. There are also debates that try to justify these gaps by saying ‘women don’t speak up, so why should they get it’, I know, eye-rolls for days right? With article titles such as “Gender pay gap to remain until 2069…” there is a lot of fun ahead of us. I’m 24 now. At 78 I will still be angry and still wondering why this is still an issue. But hey, to all the females out there, at least you have Jane Austen on the upcoming¬†¬£10 note right? WooHoo! Here’s to PROGRESSION!!!

4. lgb-T-qia Rights

Since we’re on the topic of progression. Lets all give a big round of applause to the thing Roal Dahl made James ride in with giant insects, the GIANT peach-head himself, DONALD TRUMP!!! Whooo. This man did his president thing and has officially banned anyone who is trans to join the military. I do not know where to even begin. He talks about them being burden to the military’s finances, then continue to post up articles about how being trans is a psychological issue, like, SOMEONE STOP HIM NOW!!!! To whatever fool voted for this man, congratulation! You really messed it up for everyone. I don’t mean everyone in the US, I mean EVERYONE! Because we’re now out here outraged that this is happening and as outsiders can’t do anything but show love and support.

To the transgender community in the US, we sincerely apologise that your choice to be brave and fight for your own country has been stricken because those who know less are now running your country. I mean, why pay $8.4 million to help those feel free in their own skin when you can spend $84 million helping men with hardening issues? The US is doing cuts to budget right? So it’s all for the sake of saving.

Ye, kudos to gays being allowed to get married and the whole love is love movement, but the fight is not over till everyone that exists within that abbreviation is allowed to be who they want to be. It’s lgbTqia, not just lgb. So let’s do it like the Avengers and ASSEMBLE!!!!!

These are all that I have time for today but I’m sure there are more to be angry about. 2017 has not ended yet guys, so woohoooo LETS GET READY FOR MORE BAD NEWS!!!! This is not to depress anyone. There are things out of our control that we will encounter. Whatever it is, let us all try our best to be decent human beings and help each other enjoy our existence a bit more.

 

 

Dear Rich People,

Extensive damage is seen to the Grenfell Tower block which was destroyed in a disastrous fire, in north Kensington, West London

A poem I wrote in reaction to the Grenfell Tower fire.

How nice it must be for you to sit high upon your thrones and watch the dusts on your feet whither away.

How nice it must be to dictate the aesthetics of a landscape simply out of pure distaste.

How nice it must be to colonise a town, raise its “standards” to meet YOUR standards but forget that it is the American Dream most can’t reach.

Oh it is not your fault that others are at a disadvantage,

It is not your fault that you were blessed with a platform three inches higher than the rest, no.

But look at what you have done!

Look at how the decision made by the majority of your population to relocate in order to save money has robbed those who don’t have any.

Look at how your pop-up cafes with distillery fonts on its glass panels wipe out the local business that sold hair products not seen on high-street shelves like dead bugs on your Audi Q7 car window.

Look at how you attempted to dress up the ugly beauty of our Grenfell pageant Queen with your cheap Cladding fashion.

On her own she thrived in culture and love. She thrived in a community high above.

But thanks to your wealthy, western standards of beauty,

You deemed her ugly and impoverish.

You looked high up at her and cut her down so far deep that she was the stamped out beauty under your giant feet.

You did that!

You did not apologise, you did not attempt to save her,

Instead you watched her burn from the inside of your white picket-fenced house on every screened gadget that existed within your space.

You murmered sympathy desensitised by your wealth:

“Oh no, how sad!”

“Poor them”

Yes indeed! POOR THEM!

Poor them with 7 family members in a 3-bedroom flat.

Poor them who were promised safety by new reconstruction but were murdered by that.

Poor them for being poor, to not be able to afford the new life you have reconstructed into a space they once called home but thank you for your sincerity that deep down you know is guilt.

Watch the fireworks and sweep up the ashes,

Now the only hard thing to do now is relocate or stay?

Stupid Patriarchal Definition of Beauty

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After a long day, ¬†I get home, log on to Facebook and the first thing I read is “27 Attractive Girls Who Became Ugly Freaks Because of Feminism” and already I’m rolling my eyes so far back that I’m pretty sure I saw the Pankhurst sisters deeply exhaling towards the ignorance.

Apparently, according to blog writer¬†Roosh Valizadeh, feminism has supposedly ruined the structures of beauty and for some reason thinks that he holds the almighty power to define what beauty is. Now, I’m not sure if this is one of those I-write-stupid-blogs-to-seem-controversial-and-interesting or it’s genuinely a man with THE most acute way of thinking, either way this man has some serious mama issues.

So as an male feminist, I would do my role to part take in this conversation by redoing his blog in a direction that’s, shall we say, morally correct. I won’t touch on all 27 women, but I’m gonna give a general reply so he and all the other men with easily,tarnished pride can see that no one, and I mean no one, cares about how you want your women. You get what you get and if you have an issue, enjoy the right hand buddy.

New Title: Women Who Stuck it to Patriarchy With Their BS Ideologies of Beauty.

1)

This here is Leigh Alexander. She was one of the women who received harassment during the Gamergate Controversy. Apparently women in the gaming industry didn’t deserve similar respect as the men and in her criticism she saw the controversy as “the terroristic dominance of traditional appetites in what should be a diverse and creative field“. Her roundabout argument was to open gaming up to better represent women and minorities within the gaming industry. Are we really gonna judge her looks when she just dropped the mic like a BAWSS?

2)

For some reason Mr. Roosh has an issue with women with shaved heads. Let’s just say for the record, no one cares about how you grow your beard, or how long your hair is,¬†then why do you think we would care about your opinions on how these women have theirs? Does it make you uncomfortable because you’re confused about your sexuality when you look at them? Did the whole, boys-have-short- hair and girls-have-long-hair just stumped the sexuality out of you? hm? Here’s a little tip, THEIR HAIR! THEIR BUSINESS!!!

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He then went on to attack this woman here because:

a) armpit hairs

b) tattoos

Then somehow linked it to Sigmund Freud’s Penis Envy theory. Well, someone must have¬†been put on the bottle sooner than he thought. The notion of feminism is for women to be in control of their body, to let themselves be in touch with the naturalness of femininity. I’m sure there was a time where women just grew their business without any criticism. Then as time went on, for some reason men then started imposing this idea that body hair on women are just nasty and for generations we have let our women believe this. Well, it may be something different to what we’re use to, but this is a woman’s natural state, she also bleeds once a month, but hey! Who cares right? Just let her body do it’s thaing; and as for the tattoo, I will say the forehead thing is a bit much, but it’s her decision at the end of the day, so follow my lead Mr.Roosh and just shushh.

4)

Now on to the slut shaming. Don’t be misled by the title, it was obviously chosen to be ironic. The poem itself explores the title set upon women who are sexually active. God forbid a woman sleeps with more than one man by choice but lets all fist bump and high 5 the guy who intimidated a girl into sex. No biggy! Here is where I sprinkle some Lil Kim lyrics to get your mind thinking:

Here’s something I just can’t understand/ If a guy have three girls than he’s the man/ He can even give her some head, then sex her raw/ If a girl do the same than she’s a whore.- Christian Aguilera ft Lil Kim: Can’t Hold Us Down

5)

Now what comes after slut shaming? Oh of course, Body Shaming. *slow claps for the clich√©*. Honestly, are we still at that point where we pretend no one has cellulite anymore? To all the women who wanna be thick-thighed, you beautiful girl, same with you girls who have good metabolism. Calvin Harris has made a song confessing his love for all The Girls and their differences; and if it’s coming from someone like him, do we really care for the irrelevant opinion of Mr. Roosh?

I’ll leave my list there. My point is, no man can tell a woman, or anyone for that matter, how they should present themselves. If you a woman who wanna represent the shaved head look, then go for it. If you a man who wanna slay in them heels, DO IT MAMA! No one here should be telling the other how they should be dressing (unless it’s your mother on a Sunday morning), so Mr. Roosh, thanks for the “Ugly Freaks” label, but conventional beauty was so pre-Madonna.

Bring It On 2017

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As I sit dunking coconut cookies into a nice cold glass of milk at 2am, I start to think of what about this year could I do to better myself? I have plenty of fears about 2017 and just generally being a grown up, but I feel I’m somewhat ready for it? I mean, I’m not 100% sure, but I just have a gut feeling that something about this year will change my life, well I’m hoping that it does!

I know people make resolutions every year, some they keep, some they dabble into now-and-then when they remember, so I’m gonna participate in trying this year. But I’m gonna try be as realistic as possible because a diet or joining a gym is something I know I probably won’t commit to, still, there’s no harm in trying. So, 2017, here are my top 5 promises to you:

  1. Jump More

No, not in the literal sense, but more so in the sense of going for the things I want to do but fear to do. So ‘jump more’, take more risk. Even if I fail, it won’t hurt to say that at least I’ve tried.

2. Stay Connected

This is a promise to old and new friends. That this year, I will try my best to (re)unite with you at some point and do it more often. I noticed I am surrounded by a whole bunch of beautiful people, some I’m only connected to via social media or text. Therefore it is my promise to make a more physical appearance. But it takes two to tango so please, dance with me when you can.

3. Treat Yo’self

Now this is more for me. I need to start doing things more for myself because for some reason I let guilt hold me back from doing whatever I want. So, buy that jacket I feel I don’t deserve mainly because it’s too pricey. Take more dance classes.Enhance a dormant skill. Don’t be afraid to try something different. Enjoy all the little things the world has to offer. I feel people get too busy being concerned about achieving the whole get education-get a good job-be in a relationship goals that they forget to just take time to treat themselves. It’s not selfish to make yourself happy, so here’s to hoping that it opens me up to something new that I can enjoy this year.

4. Petition against Petty & Shine light on Shade.

2016 has got my emotion doing acrobatic skills that I find myself being fabulously bitter at the world. I wasn’t raised to be self-entitled nor feel like the world owes me something, which means no more being a brat and letting the things that hurt as quick as possible. There will be no more space for pettiness and shade, just forgiveness and patience. To those who know me know that this will be hard for me, but 2017 got me feeling positive.

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This is left blank for now. This is for all the upcoming resolutions that will pop up during the year. For all the actions that I will take to better myself. For all the efforts I will put in for others; and for the things in the strange and beyond that is coming to change me. I am ready for it all. So 2017, BRING IT ON!!!!

I hope this year will bring something new and life changing for you all, even if it’s scary, don’t worry, we’re all probably experiencing the same sort of feeling. But for now, lets all get ready to take the plunge together. To 2017!!!!! Whooo!!!!

You Let Your Mother Sleep in the Cold

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Hello people!! Hope Christmas has treated you well and hope you’ve have all enjoyed the company and warmth that came with Christmas. However, for some, they unfortunately didn’t have the same warmth extended to them, both literal and metaphorically.

As Christmas commenced, we sat around the table with smiles and empty stomachs all ready to dig in and share stories. Empty plates became full and empty stomach slowly start to get filled. But as we sat and talked, my mother told us a story about the homeless woman she met during her last minute Christmas eve shopping.

As she was walking, a lady stopped her to ask her for money. My mom than stops and asks her “Will you be spending this money on alcohol later?”, the lady replied “No”. Turns out she just came back from her daughter’s HOUSE to give the present she had for her granddaughter, a present she used all the money she just begged for to get. Stunned by her reply, my mom then asks “how come they didn’t invite you in to spend Christmas with them?”. Saddened, the lady said that her son-in-law was not comfortable to have her in the house because of her “state” (yes, please¬†be angry at the son-in-law with me). So with that she was let back into the cold whilst her daughter and son-in-law enjoy the joys of Christmas with their daughter.

It was here we paused, dumbfounded on how someone would let their mother roam the cold streets during Christmas simply because of her “state”. She raised that woman, she carried her for nine months, she tried her best to provide for her, but now? Now she’s pushed back out like an unwanted pet? It was just so heartbreaking.

Sometimes I feel like this western world I live in is so advanced, but then sometimes I question if moral is something that still exists? In our culture, parents are praised and highly respected, no matter how in-the-wrong they may be. Sure you can judge how that relationship works, but I can assure you never in our life would we let our mother enter a home just to go back out to being homeless. Things are different here. Yes, things are more complex. But what tells you that it was OK to let your mother continue to be homeless on a day like Christmas? Was the idea of spending money on an extra person too much for you? Like, I just don’t understand it. Is this how the west treat those who raise them? As if they’re disposable trash? Just think about that for a second. There may be family complications in the past, things might’ve happened, but it was Christmas for Pete’s sake! Even now my heart goes out for the woman who had nothing to provide something for her granddaughter. Wherever she is, may she find peace in this world, with herself and her family; and may the family that pushed her out realise their mistake and take actions immediately, because this is not the kind of world I want to be living in, where we treat our family as unwanted baggage.

Guys, love one another. Don’t let pride come between you and those you once loved. Life is too short to be treating those close to you like this.

I hope you all have a brilliant year next year, filled with love, care and peace. Stay blessed my fellow humans.

Merry belated Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Why Mo’ana should be your daughter’s feminist icon!

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YAY! After finally using my 3 year old nephew as an excuse to go watch Mo’ana, I have finally ruled Mo’ana as THE best feminist icon amongst the Princesses of Disney; and yes, your daughter should look up to her as an aspiring independent woman. “Why?” you may ask, well sit tightly because I’m about to give you at least 5 reasons on why she should be the home-girl to your children.

  1. She decides what her future holds

With her tradition and culture on the line, there were some social obligations that she had to abide to. Although these were something important, she did feel she was made for something different. So without any disrespect, she decided to pursue the dream within her. Your children were made for something great, but the word ‘great’ will mean something different for each kid. As long as they’re doing what makes them happy, they will be doing that ‘great’ thing they were made for.

2. No damsel in distress over here

Instead of the usual, prince saves princess, Mo’ana upped it a notch by saving a demi-god, A DEMI-GOD!! Like hello, who is Prince Charming even? A young girl who was off on an adventure to save her island and culture comes to meet a demi-god low in self-esteem and manages to help him realise his own potential without the acceptance from others.

3. Self-taught canoe sailor

Name me a princess that was able to find a canoe and teach herself how to sail across aggressive oceans with a confused chicken as comfort? Hmm? No one? Well there you go. Your child should be inspired by her initiative. No need for them to wait and learn something they want to learn from someone else, when they themselves can go out into the world and learn it for themselves. Life is like that, so, do it for you kids!!!

4. Never a giver upper

There was a scene where Maui, the demi-god, wanted to give up simply because his magic hook was close to being broken. As she nearly came to giving up herself, the spirit of her grandmother pushed her to continue without the help of a demi-god. A young, female human took on the challenge to fight against the demon of the earth without any help. If her perseverance doesn’t spark something in your child, then shake them a bit, maybe they’re broken.

5.¬†” I am Moana of Motusi. You will board my boat and restore the heart to Tafiti

Mo’ana had one job, to find Maui, get him on her boat, and save her island; OK, maybe more than one. So on the first instance of meeting Maui, she was on the ball on what she came to do. No faffing about, no distractions, she got to the point. Don’t let your daughter be the passive woman everyone expects her to be. Lets her demand what she wants and get it, within good reason of course.

So ye, these are my reasons on why she beats all the other Princesses of Disney. They’re all pretty and that, but none of them sailed across the ocean, fought coconuts, and calmed a demon all in barefoot. Take your kids to go watch it, yes, both sons and daughters, let them singalong, let them laugh but most importantly, let them board the boat of¬†Mo’ana of Motunui and learn something about restoring their hearts.

Dear Selective Feminist…

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The other day on my commute back from work, I overheard two ladies in their mid-twenties talking about the progression of women in this day and age. So the conversation kind of went like this:

Woman 1 : Even though a lot has happened for women, I still don’t understand why we’re still considered inferior to men

Woman 2: Exactly! We’re just as strong as them. Just as smart, or even smarter

*Small Laughter*

They then continue to profess that “I am like, a big feminist”

Like.. ok then!

After a short while of talking and standing, woman 2 then starts to grow tired.

Woman 2: I can’t believe that all these men are sitting whilst women like me have to stand. It’s disgusting. What happened to being gentlemen? I missed how men treated women back in the days. They were more courteous. They were more classier too. I mean, I’m in heels, standing! And these men are just sitting down! How DISGUSTING!!!!

Throughout their rant, I did agree with their notions of gender equality. I myself consider myself a feminist. But I draw the line where people who call themselves feminist go back on themselves and pick and choose on which part of gender equality is more convenient to them. Dear female on my train, if you were well and able enough to go out in heels, get intoxicated and do all that you did, don’t ever come back and complain about “unfair” that no men offered you their seat. Since you’ve proudly announce your alliance to feminism, don’t fall back on it by complaining that your feet hurts because your heels were too high.

You as a woman have decided to wear what you wore out of choice. You have decided to go out on a night out and get drunk out of choice. You have explored all your choices as a woman in one night well enough to be able to withstand the pain of standing for a couple of stops.

No man offered you their seats, so what? You were strong enough to dance in them heels all night, suck it up!! Don’t pick and choose on when you want to be a feminist, because some women don’t have that ability. Some women are trapped at home out of fear. Some women don’t go out wearing what they want out of cultural obligations. Some women don’t get to have fun with their own girls because the situation they are in does not allow them to. So since you have this freedom as a woman, SUCK IT UP!!! Don’t wait for any man to offer you their seat. You are strong! Stand the WHOLE JOURNEY if needed!

Yes both gender are suppose to be helping each other out, but don’t be the type to wait for someone to offer you that help. HELP YOURSELF!!! ¬†If you want to play the strong independent woman role, then play it till the scene ends. Don’t create ¬†yourself an interval where you play weak in order for things to go your way. Don’t pick and choose honey! You wanna be a feminist, THEN FEMINIST THE HECK OUT OF LIFE!

Gender equality is yet to be reached, we all know this. So let’s not make it worse by going back on ourselves.